Member Feedback on what stops people using the forum / hope to make people comfortable on the site

I think that’s burying your head in the sand. All that results in is people being driven out of conversations, leaving the perps to badmouth them behind their backs.

When I was very young in my very first job on leaving school I was a post clerk in a factory. All male apart from me, the nurse, the typists and one lab assistant. Delivering the post was like running the gauntlet of whistles and crude remarks and porno calendars. If you answered back you were frigid or had no sense of humour. You had to turn a blind eye or leave. Some of the older guys were really kind and as embarrassed as I was. I lasted six months.

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I think mods ought to mandate this for certain people that frequently invite themselves into tit-for-tat exchanges with other members.

It should be easy enough for mods to work out who is instigating unsolicited critical replies directed at certain member(s) in targeted fashion

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I must admit I forgot / didn’t know we had this…I’ve used it very sporadically in the past on other forums and it worked well for me, I tended not to do it permanently but just for a while if a I needed a breather from someone.

I’d not thought about it but it’s something we could discuss that could be useful in some situations.

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Or you could ignore them and move on. Responding is an option and not mandatory.

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Being responded to isn’t something over which anyone has control, however.

Very true, but without a retort there is less fuel for the fire.